Kali, Prime Minister of Tact.
I used to believe that “tact” was another way of saying “lying,” since it seemed like most of the time it was just a way to avoid sharing one’s actual thoughts. I also used to think that “brutal” honesty was the only kind. I like to think I’ve mellowed a bit since then. I’ve learned that the truth can be spoken without it causing harm. That it can be delivered firmly, but also kindly. And that some situations are better than others for having valuable discussions.
Sometimes though, I just wish people would be a lot more blunt. Especially in social situations. I don’t think I’d mind being told point blank that somebody didn’t like my company much. It would certainly save me a lot of time on worrying and wondering. Especially if it wasn’t particularly personal. Sometimes people just don’t get along with each other. That’s okay.
Maybe that’s just me wishing I could turn off the part of my brain that goes “Did I talk too much? Not enough? Too passionately? Too detached? Wrong topic? Wrong opinion? What if you’re actually completely ignorant about this? What if you’re TOO knowledgeable and you’re a know-it-all?? WHAT IF, ROBIN??? WHAT IF?”
I would actually love it if somebody could just gently say, “I’m bored with this topic, let’s talk about something else,” or “You don’t know this as well as you think. Go research.” Of course, nobody says these things, because being clear is so clearly rude…Alas!!
Is there a social nicety that you wish we’d all just do away with?
July has begun, which means it’s time for the first Vlog of the Month, made public to everyone! I do weekly Vlogs over on Patreon, for folks that want to get the most personal view into what I do and who I am. Thank you, as always, to my patrons for your support. Not just your patronage, but also your company. I feel like the Patron community has become a safe space for me to share and connect with you all on a deeper level, and I really value having such a lovely community. You rock!
For this Vlog, I decided to do something a little different and share a Tarot reading I did for myself. Whenever I have a particularly tough time, I’ve found Tarot is a great way to get another perspective on my state of mind.