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Normally Dream Eater would be pleased at being tricked…but it’s a little different when he’s the one that has to endure the lasting damage.

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the power of belief, both for good and for ill. Human beings have a strong capacity for creating self-fulfilling prophecies. What we tend to focus on, whether it’s a goal or a fear, has a much greater chance of happening if we put all our attention there.

I was reading an article on “self talk” recently that indicated talking to one’s self out loud could be a fairly effective way to deal with anxiety and depression. Once you get over the embarrassment factor of talking to yourself, that is. In typical Robin fashion, I’ve forgotten where I found the article or exactly what it said, but the core message I’ve retained. And recently I’ve been applying it more as a tool. When I’ve had a few severe depressive dips and was struggling with basic self-care, I found talking myself through the basics of preparing a meal before I actually attempted it made the process faster and more effective. It was almost as if I was encouraging someone independent of myself, and I found myself oddly more positive and supportive as a result. I did the same thing when I was driving to the Creative Writing Birthday Party I ran this weekend.

Prior to the event, I was getting bogged down with a lot of negative thoughts & catastrophizing. “The kids are going to hate it,” “The parents will think everything I’m doing is wrong,” “Word will get back to the school that I’m no good with children and they will fire me,” etc. Once in the car, I started coaching myself. “This is going to be fine. Yes, you don’t have experience with this particular kind of environment or task, but you’ve run two semesters of after-school courses and worked in a classroom for an entire year. You know the material. You know that kids like the activity. Chances are good that it’s going to go fine, if not fantastically. We’re not going to worry about ‘worst case’ scenarios because it is unlikely that they’d even occur, so it’s not worth the mental effort. Okay? Okay. Let’s do this.”

And you know what?

Kids had a great time, the parents were happy, I’ve got a new experience, and a little bit more in the Book Three Fund.

What difficult task is giving you trouble right now, and how can you coach yourself to success?

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I am glad there is a personal positive to talking to yourself. Unfortunately, I choose to apply other end goals as my reason to talk to myself. It turns out, if you argue it yourself, out loud, in front of some one who is annoying you, about whether or not it is their fault they are annoying, that person tends to avoid you in the future. It is a scenario not meant for nice people, but I don’t work with a lot of those :p

Positive self-talk is a wonderful thing. I don’t think people realize how much we define ourselves just by the way we speak. It’s a really simple change that produces amazing results.

Huh… this is kind of interesting. It reminds me a little of how certain religions will demonize the gods of other religions, like how Satan was a demonized version of Pan from Greek mythology. It also reminds me of how these days in the movies, gods of death like Hades and Anubis are often portrayed as villains. Poor Dreameater.

Positive self-talk? Eh, I don’t do that all that much. Occasionally, when I’m in a bit of a panic, I’ll repeat the mantra “I am okay, everything is fine”. Sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesn’t.

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