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There was a bit of a kerfuffle in Purgatory (ie – recess at the school I help at) today. Kids were rough-housing in that way where it’s really fun and just a game and then suddenly a line gets crossed for one person and abruptly it’s frightening and painful for somebody. And none of the kids realized it until they’d already hurt one of their friends. Fortunately it wasn’t too bad, but I sat the pack of them down and we talked about how important it is to be aware of each other. To pay attention to where boundaries are. And to be there for your friends when those boundaries get crossed. “We failed your friend today,” I said to a set of very somber second graders, “You did, I did. We weren’t paying close enough attention. He needed somebody to step up, and none of us did. We need to do better next time.”

That’s a message I hope they take with them. Sometimes that line is so fine, it’s hard to tell where it is. And sometimes even when people recognize it, they don’t have the courage to step up. Or maybe, more accurately, the practice. I think the concept of courage is detrimental in a lot of ways. We talk about bravery like it’s some sort of innate talent. Some people have it, some people don’t. Except, that’s no more true for being brave than it is for being good at art, or sports, or math. Sure, maybe some people have a larger innate recklessness, or determination, or stubbornness which makes them more inclined towards doing things that people call “brave,” than others, but I think in the end it’s practice that makes perfect. I was talking with Josh of the Points of Interest Podcast about how having a purpose at a con can change how you view it. As far as conventions go, if I’m just an attendee, I’m exceptionally uncomfortable. I feel lost and threatened in the crowd. However, put me behind a booth and I adore conventions. It’s my safe zone. It’s where I can practice being brave. And the more conventions I’ve gone to with a booth, the more comfortable I’ve gotten going beyond the booth. Doing panels, going to dinner with other artists, or just visiting other artist tables. The bravery to do those things didn’t just appear naturally. It developed over time with regular practice in a safe place.

What scares you, and how can you create a safe place to practice being brave?

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The only thing that really scares me is change. And that fear is onset by other fears(fear of failing, etc).
What I do is just try to control the change so it comes in small doses. When the big changes come, well I end up just stressing about it.

Also; great page.

I think your argument is a little flawed. The thing is, some people really are better at sports. As a very tiny person, I’m just never going to be an NFL linebacker, no matter how much I practice or work at it. Heck, I won’t even be an amateur linebacker. I don’t see why that doesn’t apply to other, less easily measured things. On the other hand, courage is something that is ultimately decided after the fact – did you face fear and pursue a course of action in spite of it? I’m not sure anyone can actually be good at bravery – after all, you’d have to be constantly doing newly scary things. I noticed a while back that National Geographic almost never talks about the “courage” of their correspondents or grantees. Their willpower or recklessness, but not really “courage”.

I’m phobic of dogs, and I’ve been slowly chipping away at that fear. I force myself to interact with dogs, but only dogs whose behavior shows that they are definitely good, safe dogs, in the presence of their owners. And I don’t take the word of owners – to a dog owner, their dog is *always* a nice dog.

I will freely admit my argument may be flawed. 🙂 I’ve noticed I have a very strong, very negative reaction to being called “brave.” I’m not sure what my hang-up is about it. And when people hear me say, “No, that’s not true,” they rush to assure me that I really AM brave if I just squint at it right. Which makes me feel like they’re not listening, and as a result completely missing the point.

I think part of it is that people often say it as if it’s something they’re incapable of doing. There’s a tone that implies “I could never do that,” and I hate how easily they give up on themselves with that statement. I hate how they pass the buck on taking responsibility for their own lives. It’s not that they are incapable of being brave. It’s that they’re unwilling to even consider it for themselves. And that bothers me. It really bothers me. Because Fear is a jerk, and I hate how easily we let it win when it comes to running our lives.

…I clearly have issues with the concept of bravery. ;P

Thank you for being less of a jerk than you could have been, Tama.

Also, I like the strategy you mention. Attitude is everything. (I tend to get overwhelmed at cons, too, just because crowds freak me out.)

Ahhh, I hope I get to see you at a con someday!

“Not everyone can be rich,” Peter went on. “Not everyone can be strong or clever. Not everyone can be beautiful. But we can *all* be brave! If we tell ourselves we can do it; if we say to our hearts, ‘Don’t jump about’; if we carry ourselves like heroes… we can all be brave! We can all look Danger in the face and be glad to meet it, and draw our swords and say, ‘Have at you, Danger! You don’t scare me!’ Courage is just there for the taking; you don’t need money to buy it. You don’t need to go to school to learn it! Courage is the thing, isn’t it? Don’t you think so, people? Aren’t I right? Courage is the thing! All goes if courage goes!”
– Peter Pan in Scarlet

I have social anxiety disorder big time, but I also have a kid, and I can’t raise her like that. So I fight it with my wonderous Taurus Determinatin (Nice way to say I am stubbon. Very stubborn). I also like to sing karaoke… in bars… in front of *deep breath, I can say it* peeeeeeeeeeople? So, yeah…

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