Denver Comic Con!
DCC is this weekend! Cory & I will be at TABLE A6! If you’re in the area, please stop by to say hello and get a free sketch! You can use this handy map to guide you:
…And now back to our regular, scheduled discussion…
Earlier this week, Joss Whedon gave a commencement speech at Wesleyan University, the full transcript of which you can find here. Now, being a huge fan of both Whedon, and good commencement speeches, I eagerly read the transcript and found it oddly applicable to the discussion we had last update. Joss speaks on a lot of topics — on death, connection, contradiction, and tension. However, the part that stood out most to me was this:
“[Our country] likes things to be simple, it likes things to be pigeonholed—good or bad, black or white, blue or red. And we’re not that. We’re more interesting than that. And the way that we go into the world understanding is to have these contradictions in ourselves and see them in other people and not judge them for it. To know that, in a world where debate has kind of fallen away and given way to shouting and bullying, that the best thing is not just the idea of honest debate, the best thing is losing the debate, because it means that you learn something and you changed your position. The only way really to understand your position and its worth is to understand the opposite.”
And it made me think of how exceptionally afraid I was of posting on the very difficult subjects of bigotry, racism, and sexism. And how each and every one of you responded with respectful discussion. What a marvel that is, and a gift, and I could not be prouder of you all. Or more honored that you chose, with much courage, to share your views with me and other LeyLians. There is a lot of very interesting, if difficult, discussion. There are perspectives that I do not, yet, understand, but I am trying. I want to put my feet in the shoes of someone else and see what the world looks like from their perspective. It doesn’t mean, at the end of the day, I have to subsume my own opinion, but it does let me gain a level of insight that I would not otherwise have. If you haven’t had a chance, I encourage you to look through the conversations on the previous page, and observe them. To see the contradictions, and not judge. To toy with the thought of losing the debate, of changing your position, before you return to the stance that you now have. It’s so easy to say “this is right, this is wrong,” but with issues like this they are so complicated, and experiences that shape views are so varied, that I don’t think we can make them simple. I think we have to embrace that complication, contradictions and all, and have a dialog. Even when it’s hard. Especially, when it is hard. And I’m so thankful that you were willing to brave those waters with me.