Sometimes it’s hard to see choices. I have a tendency to see everything in two options: Doomed if you do, and doomed if you don’t. It’s my knee-jerk reaction to any stressful situation.
For example, when I first started LeyLines I began to feel a huge friction between doing what I loved — storytelling — and doing what kept a roof over my head and food on my plate. I felt like all my time was going towards something I didn’t care about, and nothing was going towards my creative work. The only options I saw were: 1) Doomed if you do: Keep working myself to the bone until I lost my mind or, 2) Doomed if you don’t: Abandon my day job, live off of savings, and go down swinging knowing that “at least I tried”.
Fortunately, I my friend Kelly talked with me and pointed out that there were many other options I could take! Many of which would NOT lead to catastrophic self-destruction. Now, a year later, I’m working on volume two, looking forward to future cons, and learning how to balance doing what I love with doing what I need to. All because Kelly helped me see that there are always more than two choices. Thank goodness for friends with perspective!
How many options do you usually see when you’re trying to solve a problem?